“纠结”用英语怎么说？

请教各位：“纠结”用英语怎么说？最好不用翻译软件译，地道的说法。
谢谢！

纠结 就是让人不知道怎么才好 让人很为难很困惑的意思

英语里有一个专门的说法 be in a dilemma

It seems you are in a dilemma. 看起来你很纠结

paradox

be entangled with; be intertwined with

今天是吴琼要问的：纠结。 donny: hey 吴琼, congratulations! i heard you got a job offer. 吴琼: 没错，我昨天刚接到的通知！ 这可是我梦寐以求的工作。 donny: that's great! you must be very excited. 吴琼: 不过啊，我还真有点犹豫。公司要我去美国待两年，我舍不得离开这的朋友，可又不愿意放弃这个难得的机会， 实在很纠结。donny, 纠结英文怎么说? donny: 你可以说，i am torn, t-o-r-n, torn. 吴琼: torn? 那不是被撕裂的意思? donny: well, 一边是熟悉的生活，另一边是难得的机会，两个你都不想放弃，it's like your heart is being torn in two different directions, right? 你也可以说 i'm on the fence. 吴琼: fence? 篱笆? donny: 对，中文里说举棋不定，英语里说 on the fence 就好像骑在一堵围墙上，不知道该向哪边倒。 吴琼: 我明白了。那你觉得我该怎么做呢? donny: maybe you should ask yourself which is the lesser of two evils. is it worse to give up your dream job or be away from your family and friends? 吴琼: the lesser of two evils? 两害相权取其轻? donny: that's right. maybe when you think about it that way the answer will dawn on you. 吴琼: dawn on me? d-a-w-n，不是“黎明”的意思么？ donny: dawn on me 好象黎明驱走黑夜，让你把问题看清楚。 吴琼: 啊