主题是 It is better to give than to receive
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- 提问者网友：疯子也有疯子的情调
- 2021-03-28 10:51
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- 二级知识专家网友：你好陌生人
- 2019-08-21 02:49
Most of us have been told that "It is better to give than to receive." Most of us assume that the saying emphasizes the "goodness" of giving. However, receiving can be a source of pain as well as pleasure.
Typically people prefer a fair "give and take" in their relationships. Thus, if someone helps you too much, you may feel indebted to that person. Such a feeling of indebtedness is clearly uncomfortable. Benefits received are acceptable, only if they can be repaid. Beyond that point, giving can promote hatred instead of gratitude.
Sometimes people give in order to exert control over others. For example, parents may give an allowance, so they can then threaten their disobedient child with cutting it off. Likewise, a nation may give "foreign aid" to other nations with the ulterior motive of influencing their policies and asking favors in return. People tend to be unhappy, when they feel that their freedom of choice is limited by others. Thus, if help is seen as an attempt to influence behavior, people will dislike it.
Finally, receiving aid signals some inadequacy on the part of the receiver – thus threatening self-esteem. For example, people often believe that students require help in their studies only when they aren't "getting it" on their own. Likewise, workers seem to need help in their jobs when they are performing inadequately, and people require therapeutic help only when their lives and relationships are not functioning properly. To some people, accepting help is an admission of failure – especially if others do not also seem to need such help.
Common sense seems to indicate that people would appreciate help most, when they need it most. However, psychological research does not support this "obvious" conclusion. People may reject sorely needed help for several reasons.
1. It may be viewed as very obligating. Your helper can later say, "You won't do this for me, even though I helped you when you were at rock bottom?"
2. It may strongly restrict the receiver's freedom of choice. Many poor people believe, "I have no choice – I must go on welfare and put up with all the demeaning rules and regulations."
3. It may be particularly damaging to self-esteem, making you feel inadequate. The person may think, "I'm accepting this help because I am really desperate."
Particular kinds of people find aid more threatening. Men often feel less comfortable receiving help than women. Similarly, stereotypical feminine people (men or women) are more likely to be comfortable seeking help, while stereotypical masculine people tend to be uncomfortable.
Cultural rules also affect reactions to receiving help. A 1981 psychological study noted that "people in Western cultures are taught that independence is a virtue and that dependence is shameful." Communal societies – where efforts and rewards are shared – seem to encourage both offering and receiving help more than do individualistic societies. In a 1981 study of a kibbutz (an Israeli collective farm), people who lived there reported that they would be more willing to seek help than did Israeli city dwellers. Their actual behavior backed this up, but only under certain social conditions. When given an intellectual task, kibbutz dwellers sought more aid, when it was presented as a group task. City dwellers sought more aid, when it was an individual task. This demonstrates that situational variables – along with culturally learned rules – can influence when (or if) people seek help.
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Even a free gift can have a high price.
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To sum it up, although it may be godly to give, it is often uncomfortable to receive. The degree of discomfort depends on the recipient's ability to reciprocate, the "strings attached" to the aid, how much aid is needed, and the recipient's background, gender, and personality. However, offering help in an emergency is unlikely to trigger any resentment. Usually the help offered in the normal "give and take" of everyday life causes the most problems.
This article is not written to make you feel bad about giving help to others, but to make you realize that giving might not lead to the appreciation you might expect. However, I do have a suggestion if you want to help someone that is not capable of repaying you. You can ask them to start a "helping chain." As a way of repaying you, ask the receiver to help someone else in the future.
"Some time in the future, even though it may mean that you have to go out of your way, give help to someone else who needs it. To reduce that person's obligation, tell them to do a similar good deed for another."
This can lead to several positive results. First, the receiver is less likely to have a negative feeling of being indebted. Second, like a "chain letter," you may start a whole sequence of helping behaviors far beyond your original act. Lastly, sometime in the future, this sequence of helping acts may come back to benefit you, when you really need it.
Typically people prefer a fair "give and take" in their relationships. Thus, if someone helps you too much, you may feel indebted to that person. Such a feeling of indebtedness is clearly uncomfortable. Benefits received are acceptable, only if they can be repaid. Beyond that point, giving can promote hatred instead of gratitude.
Sometimes people give in order to exert control over others. For example, parents may give an allowance, so they can then threaten their disobedient child with cutting it off. Likewise, a nation may give "foreign aid" to other nations with the ulterior motive of influencing their policies and asking favors in return. People tend to be unhappy, when they feel that their freedom of choice is limited by others. Thus, if help is seen as an attempt to influence behavior, people will dislike it.
Finally, receiving aid signals some inadequacy on the part of the receiver – thus threatening self-esteem. For example, people often believe that students require help in their studies only when they aren't "getting it" on their own. Likewise, workers seem to need help in their jobs when they are performing inadequately, and people require therapeutic help only when their lives and relationships are not functioning properly. To some people, accepting help is an admission of failure – especially if others do not also seem to need such help.
Common sense seems to indicate that people would appreciate help most, when they need it most. However, psychological research does not support this "obvious" conclusion. People may reject sorely needed help for several reasons.
1. It may be viewed as very obligating. Your helper can later say, "You won't do this for me, even though I helped you when you were at rock bottom?"
2. It may strongly restrict the receiver's freedom of choice. Many poor people believe, "I have no choice – I must go on welfare and put up with all the demeaning rules and regulations."
3. It may be particularly damaging to self-esteem, making you feel inadequate. The person may think, "I'm accepting this help because I am really desperate."
Particular kinds of people find aid more threatening. Men often feel less comfortable receiving help than women. Similarly, stereotypical feminine people (men or women) are more likely to be comfortable seeking help, while stereotypical masculine people tend to be uncomfortable.
Cultural rules also affect reactions to receiving help. A 1981 psychological study noted that "people in Western cultures are taught that independence is a virtue and that dependence is shameful." Communal societies – where efforts and rewards are shared – seem to encourage both offering and receiving help more than do individualistic societies. In a 1981 study of a kibbutz (an Israeli collective farm), people who lived there reported that they would be more willing to seek help than did Israeli city dwellers. Their actual behavior backed this up, but only under certain social conditions. When given an intellectual task, kibbutz dwellers sought more aid, when it was presented as a group task. City dwellers sought more aid, when it was an individual task. This demonstrates that situational variables – along with culturally learned rules – can influence when (or if) people seek help.
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Even a free gift can have a high price.
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To sum it up, although it may be godly to give, it is often uncomfortable to receive. The degree of discomfort depends on the recipient's ability to reciprocate, the "strings attached" to the aid, how much aid is needed, and the recipient's background, gender, and personality. However, offering help in an emergency is unlikely to trigger any resentment. Usually the help offered in the normal "give and take" of everyday life causes the most problems.
This article is not written to make you feel bad about giving help to others, but to make you realize that giving might not lead to the appreciation you might expect. However, I do have a suggestion if you want to help someone that is not capable of repaying you. You can ask them to start a "helping chain." As a way of repaying you, ask the receiver to help someone else in the future.
"Some time in the future, even though it may mean that you have to go out of your way, give help to someone else who needs it. To reduce that person's obligation, tell them to do a similar good deed for another."
This can lead to several positive results. First, the receiver is less likely to have a negative feeling of being indebted. Second, like a "chain letter," you may start a whole sequence of helping behaviors far beyond your original act. Lastly, sometime in the future, this sequence of helping acts may come back to benefit you, when you really need it.
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- 1楼网友：虚伪的现实
- 2019-08-02 09:50
"friendship" what is friendship? it is to relate with somebody without need for money or qualities. it is to need emotion and over wealth is friendship , no matter what their background , age , sex or personality. friendship can be pure. we hear , nowdays, however, how one can be cheated by friends. many people get along with someone because they have a lot of money. it is doultful that is real friendship. having friends, one can be find happiness. if you are in trouble ,your friends will help you and at least comfort you. when you are happy , they share it with you. they are also to chat with you at any time. it is a wonderful feeling, as the proverb says" to love each other is easy but to make frieds is hard", so, it is crutial that we should get along with our friends. in my opinon ,it is a shame to deceive your friends . the world would be more beautiful if it is full of friendship. 翻译: "友谊” 友谊是什么？友谊是一种不需要钱或者物质来维持的人与人之间的关系。无论人们的背景 年龄 性别或者个性怎样，友谊的维系需要感情多过财富。 友谊应该是纯洁的。然而，现今我们常常听到的是一个人怎样被他的朋友所欺骗。许多人与人走近是因为他们拥有很多的金钱。而这是否是真正的友谊令人怀疑。 通过交朋友，一个人会感到快乐。如果你有麻烦，你的朋友会帮助你，至少会支持鼓励你。当你开心时，他们会与你分享。他们会在任何时候倍你聊天。 正如谚语说的：爱别人是容易的，但与人交朋友是困难的，这是一种奇妙的感觉。所以，与我们的朋友走近是相当重要的。我认为欺骗朋友是可耻的。如果这个世界充满友谊，那么这个世界将会更加美丽 赞同
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