death always takes us __surprise, even though we know it is inevitable

为什么填 by 不填 in?

by surprise means 出乎意料 注重表示结果
This took me somewhat by surprise 这多少让我有些惊讶
The rebound has taken many by surprise, as the world economy is still emerging from its worst crisis since the Great 本轮反弹出乎许多人的意料，因为全球经济尚未完全走出自1929年“大萧条”以来最严重的危机。

in surprise means 惊讶 的 吃惊 表示一种状态
He leaned back in his chair and looked at me in surprise .

他靠在椅子上，惊讶地看着我。

death always takes us with surprise ,even though we know it is unavoidable 死亡总是让我们感到意外， 虽然我们知道那是不可避免的。